What the Hell is Self Care Anyway?

I talk about self care a lot. It’s mostly because as fat people, we are often called upon (or forced into) positions where we do the emotional heavy lifting for those around us. Our supposedly jolly dispositions (think Santa), our perceived safety (she’ll...

The Familiar Way to Love

A long time ago, I was in love. Like, the break-your-heart-can’t-stop-smiling type of in love. But today I’m not with that person, because being in love is not the end-all, be-all for finding a good partner. A blogger friend of mine once wrote that she...
In Praise of Self Care

In Praise of Self Care

When I was younger, I had a weekly self-care routine that I practiced almost religiously, inspecting and touching things up mid-week. On these days, I’d spend some extra time in the shower or at the sink scrubbing, tweezing, and fussing with my face, hair, and...

Suffer, the Caretakers of the World

(Disclaimer: I am neither a psychologist, nor a mental health professional. The following is solely my personal opinion.) Are you a caretaker? No? Doesn’t sound familiar? What if I asked if you were a people-pleaser? Sound a bit closer to home? No? Maybe this...