Welcome to The Member Center for the Fat Freedom Foundation!
Hi there! I’m so excited you’re here!
Below, you’ll find all the information for joining our weekly calls.
Additionally, if there were resources that were shared during a call, you’ll find all relevant links here, organized by date. If I missed something, or you have something to add after-the-fact, let me know and I’ll link it here.
And, as always, any questions you have that aren’t answered elsewhere can be sent my way by emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I started by calling these “rules,” but after feedback and recalibrating with what I actually wanted them to be, I decided to call them “agreements.” Basically, there are two things I want and need you to agree to in order to make the Fat Freedom Foundation and our community into the space that I envisioned when it was created.
These agreements are as follows:
1. I agree to practice Radical Kindness.
Radical kindness is the term I use to describe how I want us to treat each other–and ourselves–while in community together. What this means is that you are pledging not to be “nice,” which usually is the word we use when we mean that we’re being tolerant.
We’re not here to be tolerant. We’re here to be radical. We’re here to make a change in our selves, our cultures, and the world.
There is no time for nice or niceness. Those are ways that we cover over or bypass our actual feelings. Niceness causes harm.
But by being kind, we are allowing ourselves and each other to show up as full, complex human beings.
It means we accept the messiness of living in a marginalized body in a world obsessed with dominance. It means that you’re allowed to feel what you feel. It means you don’t have to agree with everything that is said and you can challenge it. It means that you can be whomever or whatever you are, unapologetically in this space.
And it means that you will give the same to everyone else who says yes and shows up.
2. I agree to practice Radical Consent.
Radical consent means that we respect each other’s sovereignty and choice. It means that, before we offer our opinion, suggestion, or comment, we ask the other person if they have capacity and desire to receive what we have to send.
This also means that if the other person says no that we respect their no. And I know that is the hardest part.
Every single one of us knows what it feels like to have our consent, sovereignty, and choice trampled by people who mean well, think they know better than us, or really, really, really just want to help.
Let’s use this space as a place to practice unravelling that habit. It’s hard work, it’s going to feel awkward and tricky, and you won’t be good at it right away–or maybe ever.
And that’s okay.
That’s why the agreement is to practice. It’s how we all will get better.
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This list of resources is a compilations of things shared during the calls both by me and other community members.
You do not need to have read up on the resources shared in previous calls you missed in order to be “up to date” with future calls since we discuss whatever community members bring into the space each time.
However, browsing the list can give you an idea of themes and topics that came up in each call.
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